Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts

Sunday, September 15, 2013

4,602 Miles

Or 7,404.62 kilometers. This is the distance between Cebu and Dubai, the amount of space in lateral format that separates two people. After being together almost everyday for the past three years, this distance came into being. It's not because the distance was desired. The distance is simply part of the package.

There are numerous points against long distance relationships. Spending time physically together is impossible. Problematic communication and consequently misunderstanding is hard to get away with it. Temptations are never absent. Eventually, all these downsides become the strongest points in consideration, and they lead to the slow demise of the promises and pacts made to each other.

After dropping the bomb about the negative possibilities of an LDR, it is notable to mention that not all LDR actually fails. While most people are not very hopeful and confident in being physically separated from their beloved halves, it is actually possible for a long distance relationship to work. Here are some helpful and proven ways to facilitate the continuous growth of a relationship between two people despite being not together all the time.

1. Share and strive towards a common goal - There are many reasons why couples have to get into an LDR. In most cases, it is a practical move, which involves a healthier career and stronger source of income for one party or both. The couple can make this the end goal of the sacrifices and challenges that come with a long distance relationship. It can serve as the motivation to get going and the ultimate reward at the end of all the hardships.

2. Communicate frequently - Because of work, traffic, busy schedules and many other similar reasons, it is easy for the communication pattern between couples on LDR to go erratic. Many end up in absolute zero communication in just a month or two. Others slowly go through the process in months before finally letting go. There are those who make it through though. One thing about communication between partners in LDR is that it should not be all about the serious and major concerns alone. When together, couples spend seemingly useless hours talking about nonsense, bantering, joking or sometimes even without talking to each other. This is essential in relationships, not hearing each other's voices nor seeing each others faces but knowing that they are there. Hence, couples should not lessen communication even the non-verbal ones even when they are far away from each other on the physical sense.

3. Understand more - The physical distance brings about a lot of hindrances. Shortcomings are bound to occur from either or both parties. From these, conflicts may arise, and the negative consequences are limitless. It is, therefore, very useful for couples to be more understanding of each other.

As they say, long distance relationships are not for the weak. It requires a lot of hard work, persistence and the desire to be together eventually in order for an LDR to successfully make it through. Long distance relationship is for the BOLD ones only, and there is no greater force that can make anyone BOLD but LOVE.

Wednesday, May 23, 2012

Crazy Thing Called Love

Yes, love is crazy. Sure it is the most beautiful thing the world and everything in and on it has ever known. It inspires a being yet may also serve as the ultimate reason of one's demise. It can make one soar the wide sky but it can also weaken one's senses to the point of complete distress.

Yes, love is crazy. It makes people crazy, too. Yet, we all still want to love. We all still crave for that excruciating pain that seems so physically in existence that we can almost feel the blood dripping down our bodies and uniting with our very own tears. 

Yes, love is crazy. But I would not exchange it for anything in this world. Crazy love. Crazy me.

Thursday, November 10, 2011

Mistakes Are To Learn From

It's a random day, and this is a random thought. Well, not really. I've been bothered by this after learning about two other girlfriends who are in the same situation as another friend. They are making mistakes, hurting themselves and not working their way out of it. The reason is just beyond my logical existence.


I can just imagine their hearts looking exactly like this. It has been broken over and over again. They take it up, put a bandage here and there then continue being with and loving the same person. Oh how masochist people can be!

I am not a hypocrite. I have experienced being completely in-love with someone to the point that I was willing to give up everything and everyone in my life for him. However, I was able to give myself a pinch and woke up to the reality of life. That he was not worth it all.

This is the very same thing I wish my friends would do. It hurts me to no end to see them in such pain. The fact that they let it be makes me hate them though. I love them. I care for them and do not want to see them in pain. But, how can I continue doing so when they themselves have no love, care nor respect for their own being?

*Someone who really loves you will never ever hurt you. He would rather hurt himself than you.

Saturday, October 8, 2011

To My Only One


One of our first photos together as a couple. Not our best looks, but definitely memorable. Taken in the monastery in Simala (Sibonga). The very same place where I fervently prayed for someone like you to become a part of my life.

A number of people have asked why you and me. We are not really opposites, but our personality (as they see us) tend to clash. What most people do not realize is how we have uncovered the real entity behind each other. We are not similar in a lot of things, but we both know that we are who need us to be.

Your presence in my life is one of the most beautiful things my existence has offered me. I sometimes share Tim McGraw's thoughts about doing something really good sometime in the past to be blessed with a guy like you.

To others, you are soft-spoken and shy. To me, you are the person who is willing to do everything for the people he loves. In you, I see the male version of me and how I am with my family. With that, you have earned my admiration and respect.

Today, you are a year older. It might not show much on your looks, but I am confident you are as responsible and mature as you need to be. I look forward to spending years with you and make you happy, not only on your birthdays but on every single day of those years together.

Happy Birthday, my love! I wish for all your wishes to come true. I love you ♥

Tuesday, January 4, 2011

52nd And Grinning

Guess who..
1. Loves to eat sardines with odong (local noodle)?
2. Tried wearing a watch that does not work?
3. Wears plastic bags over his shoes to make sure they do not end up dirty after a long motorcycle drive to work?
4. Makes the corniest jokes at home?
5. Is the all-around guy?
6. Sings with the choir during mass?
7. Fixes everything for everyone in the house?
8. Has been a really good model for his kids?
9. Always tries to provide everything for the family?
10.Is the hero within our humble abode?



Yay! It's no other than my Dad. He has been one of the greatest pleasures in my life. He has supported me, nurtured me, provided for me, cared for me and loved me dearly since the first few moments of my existence. His patience, hard work and spirit have always been an inspiration for me. On his day, I wish him better health and more reasons to smile (to show that glint of silver inside). Life has not been a piece of cake, but his belief in himself, determination and faith in God has made him strong enough to conquer and win the battles in life.

I love you, Papa!Happy Birthday!
I wish all the best for you today and always.